An interesting lunch discussion led us to the topic "women in a women's world". What differs from a leadership point of view between a men's and a women's dominated world?
Girls are taught (still!) that the group is the base of every thing and that decision should be done in group, no "real" leader is necessary, better have a consensus and everyone agreeing rather than fighting for the best place in the group.
Boys on the other side get this competitive approach, like "nice to play the game, better to win it" (if I may simplify it this way).
The discussion today started from discussion about own children and their education and lead to our own experience in different environments. My lady friend recall working in a hospital in a team exclusively made of women (except for a male substitute who was the little pet of the department). Women there were quite bitter and let their bitterness go to others through negative and impulsive actions and reactions, not leading really to improvement in either the social atmosphere nor the efficiency of the department. The long story made short made us thought about another experience in a male dominated world as the IT industry. Men have been there to set the rules from the beginning and keep this historical advantage to themselves when promotion are coming, sponsoring their male favorite rather than a female outsider.
Wait a minute here! This sounds SO CLICHÉ! Well, according to my little researches for my MBA dissertation, this is still the case and even though there ARE female going through this glass ceiling or through the net towards top management, it is still few of them and lots still are left on the sticky floor.
Males support each other on their way up. Females don't... Where did it stop working???? Madeline Albright said rightly "There's a special place in Hell for women not helping each other". Well, is this place so nice and attractive, that women still keep doing this to themselves and to each other?
A recent article published in a Swedish newspaper mentioned that more young women chose the IT studies recently (actually, not that much more, but a little bit better!). A reason? Well Sweden is clearly lacking of IT-experts. Not that we don't have any, but that we have too few. Why not starting to wonder if women are not the half part missing (Yes you read right!).
So time to wake up and not only read the fabulous stories of IT-ladies who have succeeded. BE ONE OF THEM! IN ANY INDUSTRY! Show to the world that women are to be part of the industry as they are part of the society! Mentalities have to be fought to get a clear understanding of what has to be changed. Some IT-companies go to the opposite, getting only ladies recruited lately to get a better balance between gender. Well, I may be unfair here, but isn't it discriminating the opposite sex?
Back to women in women's world. What a challenge!
... to be continued
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